I should start with the fact that I have no medical training what-so-ever this is purely my personal journey to becoming a mom/wife and how I attempt to balance that with my work life. I have many friends that have been through similar or even far more challenging situations. I would encourage anyone struggling to start a family to seek help professionally, my only hope in sharing our story is to shed some light on what our family has experienced. This is what worked for us…
When you’re in high school or college and you’re told that you have PCOS (Poly cystic Ovarian Syndrome) you probably are more worried about your uncomfortable cycles or the fact that you grow facial/body hair quicker than your friends. You most likely aren’t thinking about how difficult it can be to start a family.
When my husband and I got married I made the choice to stop taking birth control because who knew how long we would want to wait before trying to start a family. In all honesty a big reason was also the hormone spikes from traditional birth control pills. (I had been on them since turning eighteen to help regulate my cycle.) After stopping, I was relieved because if you have been on a consistent medication you know how challenging it can be to remember it every day at the same time.
Three years went by and we had decided to start trying to get pregnant. I saw friends get pregnant with ease, if you have been through this while trying to conceive you know the mixed emotions you have for your friends. On one hand you are so excited for them to start their new chapter as a parent, on the other you do get jealous. You ask yourself if you’re doing something wrong? Maybe you should lose weight? Maybe you drink to much? Maybe too much caffeine? (Sadly this can definitely be a thing!) Or maybe you’ve watched a close friend struggle to get pregnant or go through miscarriages. ***Little tip: If you have a friend that is trying to conceive, do not, I repeat DO NOT ask them repeatedly if they are pregnant or every little symptom that coincides with pregnancy or morning sickness suggest, “maybe you’re pregnant!?” I was so ignorant about how sensitive you can be to comments while trying to get pregnant. Unfortunately the majority are unaware of how simple statements can hurt like, “When are you guys going to have kids?” It is hard to respond to that when you have been trying for months or years. I definitely know better now that’s for sure. I’m ashamed to say that I was one of those people before I knew it. I told my friends all the time, “maybe you’re pregnant?” Not knowing that they probably really wish they were.
After the third year of no luck and really wanting a child at this point I made an appointment at my local clinic to talk about fertility drugs, which I had seen a couple friends successfully become pregnant with. (I am kind of a holistic person however I was ready to try some western medicine to help me along so I consulted with the professionals). My choices that were given to me were Clomid and Femara. I had no idea what the difference was until my doctor explained that Clomid has a higher chance than Femara of conceiving twins, so we went with the lower twin option since my husband is a fraternal twin. I took Femara for four months at the lower dose and ironically my doc was about to go on maternity leave so I called to see if I could get a prescription for the higher dose while she was gone. I filled the prescription and found out a week later that I was pregnant with out little T. More to come on the start of his story.
I understand the struggle if you have questions or want to share your story leave me a comment. I’m here for you!
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